10 Traditions As Old As the SEC

My sister lives in the southern state for lovers, but is as southern as a Pittsburgh cookie table.* She’s ‘burg minded, with ‘burg habits and ‘burg verbiage. She bleeds black and gold and loves where she came from. She’s a true statement to ‘you can take the girl out of Pittsburgh, but you can’t take Pittsburgh out of the girl.’

I, on the other hand, have lived in five states in my short 25 years. (I’ve moved 22 times… which is insane to admit) Who I am wasn’t built in one region. I’m a current Texan, whose heart feels at home in the midwest, who loves an NFL team in the north east, with a love for traditions, values and the SEC like a southern belle.

I believe, SOUTHERN IS A STATE OF MIND. You could live in North Dakota and have the mindset of an Alabama native dressed from head to toe in Lilly Pulitzer. And, no matter if you’re a southern, northern or west coast bride; when it comes to traditions – the south does it right. Traditions are as highly honored as the SEC schedule. 

image: borrowedandblue.com

In my opinion, weddings nation wide should take a few tips from the south.

Weddings south of the Mason Dixon are a big deal. Each are full of phenomenal food, classic etiquette and old family traditions. Among southern cuisine, these traditions have my heart.
(… and yes, as an Ohio bride I will nod to the south and participate in some.)

SECOND LINE “With the city having the motto Laissez les bons temps rouler (“Let the good times roll!”), it’s no surprise that the “second line” tradition belongs to New Orleans, a town rich with celebration.” Southern Living 


The second line originated from African-American funerals, where a brass band played and paraded to honor the life of the deceased. Family and friends alike followed the band in procession. Modern southern weddings since have reversed this tradition, and have a second line parade between their ceremony and reception to signify the beginning of new life together as a bride and groom.

If your second line is through a public street, let it be known that it may begin with just invited guests, but your celebration will attract people passing buy – who will join in the fun.

CAKE, RIBBON PULL The Cake (or Ribbon) Pull gets it’s roots from an old Victorian tradition of “ribbon pulling,” where charms of luck and good fortune are placed into the wedding cake by the bride for her single friends. Each charm pulled is a small fortune of what is to come.



This like many traditions, the cake pull has taken on the life of ‘modernization’ where bakers will place sterling silver charms with specific meanings inside the bottom layer of the bride’s cake (most likely at a shower or bridal party luncheon verse the actual wedding cake.) Then, all the single (and sometimes not single) gals are given the opportunity to pull a charm from the cake just before the it is cut.

While the selection of charms have been added onto over the years and the fortunes have varied a bit – the most popular remain:

Hot Air Balloon or Eiffel Tower – A life full of adventure and travel
Claddagh – Friendship, Love & Loyalty
Butterfly – Eternal Beauty
Star – Your wish will come true
Anchor – Adventure is around the corner
Four Leaf Clover – Good luck
Flower – Blossoming love
Heart – New Love
Fleur-de-Lis – Love and Prosperity
Kite- Something fun is about to happen
Wishbone – Success
Ring – Next to get married (which is not used if married ladies are pulling too) 

GROOM’S CAKE Groom’s cakes can be traced back to England’s Victoria era, where every wedding had three cakes.


1. The Wedding Cake, served to the guests
2. The Bride’s Cake, served to the bride and bridesmaids
3. The Groom’s Cake, served to the groom and groomsmen

Early groom’s cakes were fruitcakes prepared by the groomsmen the morning of the wedding. Thankfully that has changed. I cannot imagine my husbands groomsmen pulling this off. The image gave me a good laugh.

Today’s groom’s cakes are often a bride’s gift to the groom intricately designed based on his hobbies and interests. Holding true to tradition, these cakes are usually made of dark chocolate with fruit or liqueur.

MONOGRAMS In the south you monogram anything and everything! For a southern bride, a monogram is typically the first time she gets to show off her new initials; however, this wide spread southern tradition does have rules.


And who better to know them than Southern Weddings

“A maiden monogram features your first initial on the left, middle initial on the right, and initial of your maiden name slightly larger in the middle (for example, my full name is Korie Nichol Culleiton, so my maiden monogram is KCN). A married, or joint, monogram features the initial of the wife’s first name on the left, the initial of the husband’s first name on the right, and the initial of the couple’s married surname slightly larger in the middle (for my fiancé, Devin Vendetti and I, our future married monogram is KVD). Most etiquette books now suggest the order we have here, but in the past, the husband’s first initial was placed on the left because it was believed that his first and surname initials should not be separated.

Before the wedding: For anything you’re going to wear, such as a monogrammed robe, dress patch, clutch, or bouquet wrap, use your maiden monogram. For wedding details that are used before you say “I do,” such as save the dates, invitations, and ceremony programs, you can use your first initials joined by an ampersand with the bride’s first initial listed first (for Devin and I, this would be K&D). In general, a married monogram should not be used before the couple is officially married. I, however, am guilty of breaking this southern rule. I have my bridal robe monogrammed with my new last name. On the flip side, while this is typically a no, no – it is encouraged for items on your registry to utilize your married monogram as they will be used post wedding.

SOUTHERN LIBATIONS Signature drinks and quintessential beverages of the South are a great way for brides to honor their home town, family favorites or own personal tastes. “From mint juleps and bourbon presses to sweet tea and Coca-Cola, there’s a Southern beverage to quench the thirst of young & old wedding guests alike.”  Borrowed and Blue


BURY THE BOURBON Along side the cake pull, burying the bourbon tops my favorites list. One buries bourbon to ensure a rain-free wedding day. A must have for all the southern brides that have outdoor wedding dreams!

Like other traditions this one has ‘rules’ but believe me, they’re fun.



Southern folklore says, if you bury a full bottle of bourbon upside down at your wedding venue exactly one month before your wedding day, you will keep rain away. (Yes, being full, upside down and 1-month prior matter according to, well, everyone!) Post reception, the bottle is to be unburied and shared with your wedding party.

This tradition can be done as a luncheon event with your family or even be the center of your engagement pictures!

THE HOUSE PARTY This southern tradition can ruffle some feathers depending on how people see things. In a nutshell, a house party is a second set of bridesmaids (often known in the north as ‘honorary bridesmaids’). The only difference is that these attendants do not stand up with you. They sit in the first few rows among your closest family.

House parties were created because southern women have a few things in common when it comes to their bridal parties. They’re large, (like their hair!) But seriously, they either have 20 close sorority sisters that they cannot chose just 1 or 2, or they have their bridal party made up of their family; sister(s) and cousin(s), but want to honor their girlfriends as well.

See how it can create a stink? Some people may be delighted to be in your house party. It can be viewed as an honor that you wanted to include them and it can save them money since more often than not house parties do not buy matching dresses. However, on the reverse side – some may feel as if they’re second string or didn’t make the cut.

It is recommended to honor your house party just as you would your bridal party since they are completing wedding-related tasks and most likely attended pre-wedding events. A wrist corsage or matching necklace should do the trick.

Southern Weddings intern, Sara gave a perfect (and positive) insight on being a house party member, “I had small duties like handing out programs, moving the guestbook from location to location, and handing out the bubbles to guests before her and her groom left the reception. Her bridesmaids all wore the same pink dress and shoes, and the other house party members and I got to choose our dress, as long as it was black and cocktail length. I felt like it was the perfect place for me, as I had been dating her brother long enough to be included in the wedding, but her brother and I were not married (and still have a ways to go before there’s a possibility of that!), so it would have been strange for her to designate a bridesmaid position for me at the time.”


THE HANDKERCHIEF Early farmers believed that a brides wedding day tears were lucky. A bride crying tears of joy on her wedding day meant she would never shed another tear about her marriage. A handkerchief represents this tradition and is more often than not handed down from one generation to the other. (It’s most likely monogrammed, too!)

BRIDAL PORTRAITS In almost every southern home, put on prominent display, there is enormous portrait of the bride on her wedding day. (Moms and Grandmothers alike have these hanging near the stairs, fireplace or grand entrance of their homes.)


In years past, having a photographer spend 10+ hours with you on your wedding day taking 6,000+ pictures was unheard of. The bridal portrait was nearly one of the only ways to document the moment. Bridal portraits are a southern staple and are still taken today, and now displayed at the wedding as well as in the homes of those proceeding the bride herself.

Scheduling a bridal session with your photographer prior to the big day can save time on must-have shots day of.

WEDDING WEEKENDS When attending a wedding south of the Mason-Dixon, it’s not a surprise that the wedding celebrations are a weekend long. This southern tradition is quickly spreading to the north and west simply because it makes the out-of-town guest’s airfare even more worth it. And now-a-days when family and friends live thousands of miles apart the extra day or two visiting is time well spent.

If you’re hosting a weekend celebration, be sure to communicate the activities and get-togethers aplenty – and in true Hayley Paige form… bride, attendant or guest, be sure to have your “Amalment”; (aka an entire wedding wardrobe weekend of perfection.)

If you don’t have traditions, start some. Include your closest family and friends and when you begin to build your own family – you can pass down the traditions near and dear to your heart. And while some are goofy or sentimental, or don’t make sense to anyone but you – that is okay!

Traditions can add joy to planning or even bring your family together. If you’re not sure which traditions to use, ask your parents, grandparents, in-laws. I have no doubt that they have traditions whether they be regional, cultural or religious – they exist.

Traditions or not, a glass of red & to-do list should get you through.


* “The cookie table at a Pittsburgh wedding is twice as important as a $500 four-tiered buttercream cake, and five times more delicious. It’s a tradition that’s said to originate in Southwestern Pennsylvania by Eastern European, Italian and Greek immigrants, who wanted to bring a taste of the homeland to the New World. Today tradition still trumps convenience, as wedding cookies are mostly homemade by family and friends.” National Post