Choosing a wedding date is one of the first and most important planning decisions you and your fiancé will make. The date you wed impacts the other elements of your big day, and until you decide on your wedding date, you cannot commit to anything.
There are so many resources to help you select the perfect date, and while I wish I could take credit for the amazing gathering of dates to avoid or embrace, all credit goes to The Knot.
An enormous thank you to The Knot for taking the time to create this list and helping brides-to-be everywhere. You have, without a doubt, saved us countless moments of chaos and oops.
Personally Significant Days
Check your own calendar for college reunions, family weddings, anniversaries or other events, like big conventions or festivals in your city, or the city you’re saying ‘I do,’ (call your local chamber of commerce), and any annual occasions that involve your family or close friends.
Holiday weekend weddings have pros and cons. You’ve got an extra day for the festivities (and recovery!); plus, a Sunday wedding is often less expensive than a Saturday one would be. However, costs of travel and hotels may be higher. And if you’re looking to marry around Valentine’s Day, be wary of your floral bill, especially if you’ve got your heart set on red roses — they’ll likely be more expensive than at any other time of the year. Likewise, reception sites often charge a higher fee for a New Year’s Eve wedding. Also consider the impact of a holiday weekend on your guest list: Some families have standing plans or traditions that they’d prefer not to miss.
Martin Luther King Jr. Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of January 17-19, 2015
Weekend of January 16-18, 2016
Presidents’ Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of February 14-16, 2015
Weekend of February 13-15, 2016
Mother’s Day (always a Sunday)
Make sure your moms are okay sharing this weekend with your wedding. And ask yourself, do you want your anniversary to fall the same weekend as Mother’s Day when (or if) you become a mom?
Weekend of May 9-10, 2015
Weekend of May 7-8, 2016
Memorial Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of May 24-26, 2014
Weekend of May 23-25, 2015
Weekend of May 28-30, 2016
Father’s Day (always a Sunday)
Like you would with your moms, check with your dads about doubling up on this day. And grooms, make sure you’re okay with celebrating your anniversary the same weekend as Father’s Day if you decide to have kids.
Weekend of June 14-15, 2014
Weekend of June 20-21, 2015
Weekend of June 18-19, 2016
Friday, July 4, 2014
Saturday, July 4, 2015
Monday, July 4, 2016
Labor Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of August 30-September 1, 2014
Weekend of September 5-7, 2015
Weekend of September 3-5, 2016
Columbus Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of October 11-13, 2014
Weekend of October 10-12, 2015
Weekend of October 8-10, 2016
Avoid it if you’re terrified that someone might actually show up in costume (and embrace it if you want them to!).
Friday, October 31, 2014
Saturday, October 31, 2015
Monday, October 31, 2016
Thanksgiving (always a Thursday)
November 27, 2014
November 26, 2015
November 24, 2016
New Year’s Eve
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Thursday, December 31, 2015
Saturday, December 31, 2016 (my perfect wedding date)
Religious and Cultural Holidays
Be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (your own and those of your guests) when planning your wedding. There may even be restrictions at your house of worship as to whether you’re allowed to marry at these times.
March 29, 2015
March 20, 2016
April 5, 2015
March 27, 2016
Saturday, March 28, 2015
Friday, April 15, 2016
Passover (begins at sunset the night before)
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Friday, April 22, 2016
Eid al-Fitr (dates may vary based on how each family observes)
Monday, July 28, 2014, until Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Friday, July 17, 2015, until Saturday, July 18, 2015
Tuesday, July 5, 2016, until Wednesday, July 6, 2016
Tisha B’Av (begins at sunset the night before)
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Saturday, August 13, 2016
Sunday, August 17, 2014
Saturday, September 5, 2015
Thursday, August 25, 2016
Eid al-Adha (dates may vary based on how each family observes)
Saturday, October 4, 2014, until Sunday, October 5, 2014
Wednesday, September 23, 2015, until Thursday, September 24, 2015
Monday, September 12, 2016, until Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Rosh Hashanah (begins at sunset the night before)
Thursday, September 25, 2014, until nightfall on Friday, September 26, 2014
Monday, September 14, 2015, until nightfall on Tuesday, September 15, 2015
Sunday, October 2, 2016, until nightfall on Tuesday, October 4, 2016
Yom Kippur (begins at sunset the night before)
Saturday, October 4, 2014
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
Tuesday, October 11, 2016
Hanukkah (begins at sunset)
Wednesday, December 17, 2014, until nightfall on Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Monday, December 7, 2015, until nightfall on Monday, December 14, 2015
Saturday, December 24, 2016 until nightfall on Sunday, January 1, 2017
Thursday, December 25, 2014
Friday, December 25, 2015
Sunday, December 25, 2016
Friday, December 26, 2014, until Thursday, January 1, 2015
Saturday, December 26, 2015, until Friday, January 1, 2016
Monday, December 26, 2016 until Sunday, January 1, 2017
Days of Remembrance
We’re talking about historically significant days (like the anniversary of September 11) that may be off-limits if you come from a big military family. Or, that could make them all the more meaningful — it’s up to you to decide.
Thursday, September 11, 2014
Friday, September 11, 2015
Sunday, September 11, 2016
National Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day
Sunday, December 7, 2014
Monday, December 7, 2015
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
Major Sporting Events
If you’re die-hard sports fans — or if you’re worried your guests might have a hard time choosing between your wedding and the big game — avoid getting married during popular sporting events. And if a lot of your guests come from the same alma mater, watch out for homecoming weekends and bowl games that might conflict.
Super Bowl Sunday
February 1, 2015, in Glendale, AZ
February 7, 2016, in Santa Clara, CA
Final Four During March Madness
Saturday, April 4, 2015, and Monday, April 6, 2015, in Indianapolis
Saturday, April 2, 2016, and Monday, April 4, 2016, in Houston, TX
If you’re superstitious, you might want to watch out for these historically inauspicious dates from across several cultures.
The Ides of March For ancient Romans, an “ides” was simply a date that marked the middle of the month — until Julius Caesar was assassinated on March 15 in 44 B.C. Since then, “Beware the Ides of March” has become the mantra of this superstitiously unlucky date.
Sunday, March 15, 2015
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
Friday the 13th The unluckiest date of the year has questionable origins. Some historians say it comes from the 13 diners who were present at the last supper, but the famous Code of Hammurabi doesn’t include a 13th law, which suggests this superstition is as many as 3 millennia old. And it wasn’t until a successful novel titled Friday the Thirteenth was published in the early 1900s that Friday became part of the unlucky equation.
June 13, 2014
February 13, 2015
March 13, 2015
November 13, 2015
May 13, 2016
Leap Years Greeks and Romans thought that starting any new life event — from getting married to baptizing a child — in a leap year would bring bad luck.
Next Leap Year: 2016
Monday, February 29, 2016
Numerically Quirky Dates
Maybe there aren’t any dates with a significant meaning to you, but you want one that is easier to remember – consider a palindrome date or other numerically fun day.
4/10/2014 (a palindrome) falls on a Thursday
12/13/14 falls on a Saturday
5/5/15 falls on a Tuesday
5/10/15 falls on a Sunday
5/15/15 falls on a Friday
6/16/16 falls on a Thursday
6/10/2016 (a palindrome) falls on a Friday
Top row images, left to right: mazelmoments.com and weddingangels.com Center row images, left to right: pinterest.com, oncewed.com and firstwedd.com
Bottom row images, left to right: oncewed.com, sanyuktashrestha.com and weddinggoal.com
If you are clueless on which date is the perfect one for you and your fiancé, consider the following: vision and time.
Think about your vision. What is your perfect wedding scene?
Outdoors surrounded by vineyard vines? Inside a cozy barn looking out at snow-capped mountains and gleaming icicles? If your perfect floral arrangement is full of your grandma’s favorite flowers – be sure to check when they’re in season. Out-of-season flowers not only cost more, but are sometimes near impossible to get. If you’ve always dreamt of a gown with long sleeves, a summer wedding in 90+ degree heat may not be ideal. If you select a season or two you narrow your options down to a half, if not a quarter.
Don’t rush your planning. Enjoy the journey and the engagement. Having a longer engagement gives you the upper-hand on picking your venue and vendors. You can book them far enough in advance and have your first pick of DJ, florist and caterer. This also allows you to save up financially and spread apart your invoice due dates.
I have no doubt that whatever date you do choose will be the perfect moment for you and your fiancé to say “I do.” Use the resources around you and if necessary, get the input of your parents or grandparents. A glass of red & to-do list will get you through.
Another must-read from theknot.com when selecting your wedding date: http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/picking-the-perfect-wedding-date.aspx