Picking the Song for your First Dance

The thought of picking a first dance song is a challenge. It’s a tried-and-true tradition that has gained so much pressure.

The struggle, You want a song that represents the life you’ve had with your fiancé thus far, but that same song has to paint the picture of your future together.

Now you’re thinking, is that song even out there? It is, and you will find it!

Googling “the perfect wedding song” or “popular wedding songs” is like walking into a library blindfolded trying to find a book. You’ll never find it, and if you do it will either be out of luck or you will have no emotional attachment to it.

Think about the story you want to tell.

Do you want something traditional or modern?  Low-key or high-energy? Well-known or a new artist? What is your music style?
Next, describe your relationship in three sentences.

By those four answers and three sentences, finding a song should be easy. For example:

a. Traditional b. Low Key c. Well known d. classic
He loves me no matter what. I couldn’t imagine my life without him.  I’m ready to spend my life with him. (Seems basic, but now you know you want a traditional, low key song that is well know. You want it to show that you’ve been through things together but no matter what you’re in it for the long haul.)
Song: “It Had to Be You,” by Harry Connick Jr.

a. modern b. not low key, but not high energy c. newer artist d. country
He is my soul mate.  We’ve been through a lot. It was fate we met.
Song: “God Gave Me You,” by Blake Shelton

While the above are very basic statements about a relationship, I’m sure yours will be more personal and thought out. Minimize it down. Think of the most important things.

For me: we’ve dated for what seems like forever, we fight hard and love harder, and I’ve never felt more at home than I do when I am with him.

Once you have those basics down, THEN utilize the massive wedding song lists. Good luck!

While you’re Googling or looking up your favorite celebrity’s first dance song*, a glass of red & a to-do list should get you through.


Celebrity First Dance Songs

  1. Beyonce & Jay-Z: “Crazy in Love” by Beyonce (the couple’s first collaboration together!)
  2. President Barack Obama & First Lady Michelle Obama:”You and I” by Stevie Wonder
  3. Brad Pitt & Jennifer Aniston: “The Way You Look Tonight” by Frank Sinatra
  4. Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes: “Songbird” by Fleetwood Mac
  5. Kim Kardashian & Kris Humphries: ”Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green
  6. Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel: “A Song for You” by Donny Hathaway
  7. Reese Witherspoon & Jim Tosh: “Make You Feel My Love” by Bob Dylan
  8. Britney Spears & Kevin Federline: “City by the Bay” by Journey
  9. Drew Barrymore & Will Kopelman: “No One’s Gonna Love You” by Band Of Horses
  10. Miranda Lambert & Blake Shelton: “No Doubt About It” by Neal McCoy
  11. Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban: “At Last” by Etta James
  12. Tori Spelling & Dean McDermott: “Amazed” by Lonestar
  13. LeAnn Rimes & Eddie Cibrian: “When It Don’t Come Easy” by Patti Griffin
  14. Mark Zuckerberg & Priscilla Chan: “Last Night on Earth” by Green Day
  15. Paul McCartney & Nancy Shevell: “My Valentine” by Paul McCartney
  16. Kate Middleton & Prince William: “Your Song” by Elton John (performed by Ellie Goulding)
  17. John F. Kennedy Jr. & Carolyn Bessette: “Forever In My Life” by Prince
  18. Ellen DeGeneres & Portia de Rossi: “Ribbon in the Sky” by Stevie Wonder
  19. Bethenny Frankel & Jason Hoppy: “No One” by Alicia Keys
  20. Denise Richards & Charlie Sheen: “Open Arms” by Journey
  21. Sandra Bullock & Jesse James: “The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me” by Gladys Knight
  22. David Beckham & Victoria Adams: “It Had To Be You” by The Starlight Orchestra
  23. Carrie Underwood & Mike Fisher: “Love Never Fails” by Brandon Heath
  24. Khloe Kardashian & Lamar Odom: “Angel” by Anita Baker
  25. Fergie & Josh Duhamel: “Sweethearts Together” by The Rolling Stones
  26. Katherine Heigl & Josh Kelley: “Heavenly Day” by Patti Griffin
  27. Tamra Barney & Eddie Judge: Prince Royce’s “Stand By Me”
  28. Michael Buble & Luisana Lopilato: “Everybody Loves Somebody” by Dean Martin
  29. Joel Madden & Nicole Richie: “What a Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong
  30. Shania Twain & Frederic Thiebauld: “I’m Your Man” by Michael Buble
  31. Kate Moss & Jamie Hince: “If There Is Something” by Roxy Music
  32. Nick Lachey & Vanessa Minnillo: “A Kiss to Build a Dream On” by Steve Tyrell
  33. Hilary Duff & Michael Comrie: “Stand by Me” by Ben E. King
  34. Chris Bosh & Adrienne Williams: “Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton
  35. Channing Tatum & Jenna Dewan: “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole
  36. Gene Simmons & Shannon Tweed: “At Last” by Etta James
  37. Ashlee Simpson & Pete Wentz: “First Day Of My Life” by Bright Eyes
  38. Chelsea Clinton & Marc Mezvinsky: “At Last” by Etta James
  39. Amy Smart & Carter Oosterhouse: “All I Want Is You” by U2 (played by two fiddlers)
  40. Shannen Doherty & Kurt Iswarienko: “‘My Baby Just Cares For Me” by Nina Simone
  41. Niecy Nash & Jay Tucker: “At Last” by Etta James (performed live by Brandy)
  42. Katherine McPhee & Nick Cokas: “The Way You Look Tonight” by Frank Sinatra
  43. 43.   Jimmy Kimmel & Molly McNearney: “Let It Be Me” by Ray LaMontagne
  44. Kate Walsh & Alex Young: “Someday My Prince Will Come” by Anya Marina
  45. Lauren Bush & David Lauren: “Vanishing Breed” by Michael Martin Murphey
  46. Kendra Wilkinson & Hank Baskett: “I Cross My Heart” by George Strait
  47. 47.   Danielle Fishel & Tim Belusko “All of Me” by John Legend
  48. Ivanka Trump & Jason Kushner: “This Year’s Love” by David Gray
  49. Jenna Bush & Henry Hager: “Lovin’ In My Baby’s Eyes” by Taj Mahal

    List courtesy of Shefinds.com

*While some of these stars have separated ways, don’t let that hinder from sharing a song with them. Think about it this way: Your wedding song (unless it’s written by you, your fiancé or a family member) is bound to be shared with another couple. Their marriage could have ended in disaster or they could still be together, still head over heels and smitten. You just don’t know it because they’re not in the public eye.

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